Monday, September 13, 2010

Mommy Monday - No!

Here's my thought. It seems like every weekend I have plans to finally sit down for a whole day uninterrupted and finish my final read-through.

But I have the "yes" gene.

I say yes way too much, and only because I don't want to make someone feel bad. Not because I mean it. This weekend for example. Wednesday evening I got a call inviting me to a birthday dinner Friday night. So, I said yes I'd love to come. And I enjoyed myself and celebrating a birthday is always necessary.

Then Saturday morning I got a call inviting me to the movies. Like, get up and go right now. It was with my sister and we haven't hung out as much lately as normal, so I reluctantly said yes. Did I have fun? Absolutely. Was that 5 hours wasted that I could have spent on my MS? Yep! *headdesk*

Saturday night there was a party at my BFF's house. Sunday I got up and had to clean the house and do laundry.

By the time I was able to do any edits, I only had time for a chapter.

I need to take lessons from Super Spawn. If you offer him something that he doesn't really want to do he says, "NO!" If you try to coerce him into it he says, "NO!" No matter what you say to him if the child doesn't want to do something he just by darn isn't going to do it.

Maybe there's a lesson there for mommy. If I really want to get through these final edits I need to start telling people (and myself) no.


LTM said...

now--how to get rid of the inevitable guilt that follows the "No"? ergh!!! :o\

Holly Dodson said...

Guilt is a whole post on its own. lol

There's guilt for saying yes, guilt for saying no. Guilt for saying yes, but wishing you had said no.

May as well choose the guilt that gets the most done. ;)

Sarah Enni said...

I don't know what this says, but I've found it easier to say "no" to things since I moved to the east coast. People here seem to have an easier time saying it, and they don't get offended if you just don't want to do something. (Could also be part of growing up, lol)

Erinn said...

Most of the time I say yes to social engagements because I can't think of a good reason to say no, other than, "I really don't want to hang out with you, because, you know, you sort of suck and I'd much rather play with my imaginary friends then real human beings. Because you know, they suck." Or maybe that's just me.

It could be me.

Pam Harris said...

I haven't learned how to say "no" until I reached my mid-twenties, and I still feel a pang of guilt. Oh well, sometimes we have to learn how to priorize. :)