Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Road Trip Wednesday

This week's topic is in celebration of Kirsten Hubbard's LIKE MANDARIN ARC contest going on over at the YA Highway!

For our topic we're supposed to tell about a time we did something completely crazy.

My answer for this is more serious than fun.  It was a defining moment in my life, the moment I stepped forward and actually stood up for myself for the very first time.  And no, I'm not exaggerating. 

It was September first of 2007, and Super Spawn was just over two months old.  My marriage was failing, and every dream I ever had was shattering right before my eyes. 

You see, I was in an abusive marriage.  Not physical abuse...not the kind that leaves visible marks.  The kind that cuts you on the inside and makes you believe you're worthless.  There were so many problems...more than I could ever dare list here.

But on that day, on September 1, 2007, I took control.  I came home from my best friend's baby shower to a husband who had gotten so drunk he had passed out on the couch and I couldn't wake him.

Instead of calling 911, I packed my bags.  I got the baby's things, I got in my car, and I drove to my mom's.

It was the craziest and scariest thing I ever did, and led to one of the most terrifying parts of my life, but I am so glad I did it.  SO glad I found the strength to take that step.

Emotional abuse is scary, and the wounds left behind may take longer to heal than a busted lip, but they do heal.  And they make you stronger. 


Kaitlin Ward said...

Very brave! And very wonderful. Glad you got out of an unhealthy home.

Claire Dawn said...

I've walked away from an abusive relationship as well. But I bow to you, because it's so much harder to walk away from the mind games of verbal abuse.

Glad you made it out and are doing so well now.

Abby Stevens said...

You are very brave, Holly. I am proud of you, for taking the steps you needed to take, and for telling others about it. You never know who might read this and be inspired.

Jennifer Hoffine said...

Yes, that's way more brave than crazy. So glad you were able to take that step!

Holly Dodson said...

Abby, that's the only reason I share it honestly. You never know who could benefit from hearing it.

But trust me, guys, it felt stupendously crazy at the time. lol

Sarah Enni said...

This was crazy -- crazySMART, crazyBRAVE, and you are crazyINSPIRING for sharing your story. I'm so glad you realized you were better than that, and I hope you celebrate it every day. Super Spawn is lucky to have you <33

Erinn said...

Taking control of your life is the single most scary and brave thing you can do. Good for you! You truly are SUPER MOM!!!
Thank you. Thank you for sharing and thank you for being brave.

Alicia Gregoire said...

I'll just second everything everyone else has said because I can't think of anything else to say.

Katy said...

Wow! So inspiring! How brave of you to share something so personal. I'm glad you can look back on it and see the wisdom of your choice. Cheers to you!

Kirsten Hubbard said...

I'm so proud of you for sharing this. I can't imagine what kind of courage that took.

Angie said...

This is awesome, and so brave of you!!! Thanks so much for sharing. :)